Everyone Has a Story to Tell
As I grow older and I look around at the people in this world, I become increasingly aware of how much pain there is in their lives. Have you heard people say, “everyone has a story to tell?” It’s true. The problem is that we are often so consumed with our own troubles that we fail to see how tough life is for other people. There are so many people out there looking for someone or something that will help make their lives a little easier, a little happier, and to help them feel like they matter. But there is no church, no pastor, no teacher, no politician in this world that can help everyone out there who needs it.
The truth is, most of those people who we seek for help are going through similar problems in their own lives. Those who are called into ministry often make an honest effort to be there for as many people as they can, but I think it’s too much. No one can “be there” for everyone in their congregation. No one can make everyone in their congregation feel as if they matter or feel like they are loved. Even for the smallest congregations, that burden is far too heavy.
Fortunately, that’s not how it’s supposed to work. As Christians, we are not supposed to expect our church leadership to make us feel better or to make our problems go away. Nor is it the job of our government to do that for us. It is not our spouses who are supposed to fix all of our problems and make everything right. No, as Christians, we have access to the Comforter:
King James Version (KJV)
25These things have I spoken unto you, being yet present with you.
26But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.
The Holy Spirit is our Comforter, not the other people in this world who need His comfort as much as we do. He is the only one who can “be there” for everyone who needs it.
I have heard about so many people who cut ties with their churches because they were not getting what they needed from that church. They are hurt people, needy people (as we all are), who expected someone to fill the holes in their lives and mend their woes. When those people don’t receive from the church what they were expecting to receive, they continue their search for someone who will deliver on their expectations.
I can tell you that it is an endless quest. The closer you get to the people who you expect to make you whole again, the more you will realize that they themselves are not quite perfect enough to give you what you need. Before you know it, you will be back on the road again, continuing your search, disappointed once again in those who couldn’t do it for you.
It is not the church congregation, or the pastor, or the Sunday school teacher, or the deacons of any church that will ever bring you comfort. No, it is the Holy Spirit working through those people who will comfort you. This is a very serious and important point that too many people miss. For as long as you seek comfort from other people, you will eventually be disappointed. But when you look to God and His Holy Spirit for comfort, He will set a multitude of people in your path to do His will in your life. When you need someone to say a kind word, the Holy Spirit will send someone to deliver that kindness precisely when you need it. But for as long as you cling to people for their support instead, you will be clinging to a person who needs all the same things you do (whether you realize it or not).
I am not suggesting that Christians don’t need to go to church. Not at all. I am only suggesting that you have missed the entire point of Christianity if the reason you go to church is to cling to the people in it. If the reason you attend Church is because you want the people of that church to make you feel better, you should reconsider your motivations. Don’t go to a church because you think your needs will/could/might be met there. Instead, choose a church to attend because you are needed there. Listen to the Holy Spirit and let Him tell you where you are needed!
Who Can Help Them All?
I can’t. You can’t. The only One who can is the Comforter, the Holy Spirit. When I step back and look at all the pain people are suffering in this world, a very big part of me wants to do something for them. But the best I can do is invite them to get to know Jesus. I myself have been too hurt and am too needy to do anything more than that for them.
That said, if you do not know Jesus as your lord and savior, if you feel hurt and you need someone to help you feel better, I encourage you to seek Jesus. Stop looking for healing from those who have nothing to give you and look for it in Jesus instead. If you would like to know more about how to do that, please feel free to email me and I will answer any questions you have. (This blog has an email form to the right of this article.)